“It was just an innocent comment, man, I didn’t mean it.” As I was reading through the comments thread, I wondered to myself “Was it me, or was blogging getting a bit more intense?”
I read the words but they blurred together on the screen.
An ‘innocent’ comment? Is there such a thing?
And what do we really mean when we comment? Why do we jump into a conversation?
What results do we really want?
Let your mind ponder that question while I tell you a story.
There’s a late-night security guard in my condo named Abadir. He’s fun, and he and I bond over Drake lyrics and success-talk – we love it.
If it sounds great, that’s ’cause it is, but Abadir has a bit of a problem.
He’s 22 and he’s lived more life than most people imagine. That’s not the problem. He’s been through adventures; he’s got a colorful history. That’s not the problem either.
That was the setup. Keep reading and I’ll explain
A Slice Of Abadir
Here’s a slice of Abadir’s colorful life, paraphrased from our chats.
“And then my friends broke my f***ing coffee table! They got sh*t-faced and fell on it! Do your friends come into your house and break your stuff? It’s too much hassle man.” <laughs>
“Y’know J, to be honest, if there was 10 fights that summer — 9 of them would NOT have been me starting them. I just wanna kick-back, chillax, you know, I ain’t got no beef with nobody.”
“So we’re in Somalia, and my Dad’s brother held a gun to my Dad’s head and told him he had to drop the money and leave. He had the choice to back up my Dad, or bait him out. He totally baited him out. Yeah, my uncle’s kinda the black sheep, naw’mean?”
So, as you can imagine, I’m always riveted by our late-night conversations, Abadir’s a masterful story-teller, and while most people are sleeping, I’m being sucked into a fantastic world of sordid Somalian shenanigans.
Every word he delivers aims to entertain and ease pain, and he does it naturally. His conversation skills rock, and they don’t teach ‘em in school.
I asked him how he does it and he gestured widely saying:
“I like good conversation, you know?
I like to get into with someone, not like… mean, but someone who can go shot for shot with me. Someone who knows how to navigate the conversation man. S’why I like talking to you.”
If I was the blushing type, I woulda blushed here, but when you can talk about money, fame, and sex over breakfast, blushing’s not really a common thing
Anyway, remember I told you how Abadir has a problem? Well he describes it in the next sentence.
The Problem With Chatting
“Some of the tenants here… well, I try to be friendly, I say hi, and they just grumble or ignore me with their head down. That is NOT shot for shot. That’s not even trying.
Others… I tell a great story, and they’re all like ‘thats cool.’
‘That’s cool?’ I mean, seriously?
After one experience like that, I’m off, man. That’s not what I’m about. I value real talk. Whether I’m having a good day or not, I offer decent conversation, or I’m honest about not feeling up to it.”
I laughed, because even listening to Abadir talk about ‘talking’ was inspiring to me.
And his words got me thinking. A lot. Have you ever had a friend say something that made you take a step back and think about life?
Well, Abadir – although he didn’t know it – got me thinking about blog comments.
Maybe you’re familiar with blog comments like these:
- “great post”
- “I disagree, you suck”
- longer, rambling versions of the ones above
If Abadir was a blogger, he would hate those comments.
Well, I’m a blogger and I learn from my friend.
I pay Abadir tribute with every comment I write. I make my comments count, they have deep meaning, they add to the conversation, and I’m praised for it.
The Shot-For-Shot Solution
Here’s just a sample of the praise I’ve got for my comments this week.
- “Thanks Jay, always enjoy your comments… so much value.”
- “Awesome thread of comments. Funny thing. I almost forgot the content of your post after reading the commentary. Thanks Jason…”
- “Always love your perspectives and how you extend the conversations here.”
- “I’m guessing I could write a few posts just based on the questions you pose.”
- “You’re definitely an MVC! (Most Valuable Commenter)”
To me, bloggers are story-tellers, and after a blogger tells a good story they’re looking for someone to “go shot for shot” with them.
That’s part of a commenters ‘job.’
Now that you know Abadir’s story and have a feel for the value of a good conversation…
What if I told you there was a way you could guarantee that when you comment from now on, it will be high-quality comments that people enjoy and benefit from?
Well, there is.
There’s a system for commenting. And it answers the question at the beginning of this article, what results do we want when we comment (and how to get them!)
So, you interested?
Good, I love it when people are ‘hungry’ and psyched up for the awesomeness that’s about to drop.
I’m going to wrap up for now, but stay tuned, ’cause next post I’ll be sharing this exclusive, fantastic, 5-step, commenting-system here at Logallot.
Make room in your schedule, watch your inboxes, and ‘harass’ Sonia into letting you have a sneak peek so you can get to commenting like a superstar